Who Run The World? Girls!

Dear Beautiful Women,

There are times in every young woman’s life that we dream of kids, marriage and our own family with a happily ever after. We all are capable of creating our very own happy beginning and ending. We’ve all had that relationship(s), where learned about the do’s and don’t’s, our likes and dislikes, the mistakes and lessons, and the difference between love and lust. Some situations we learned too late about what we shouldn’t do, and had to learn the hard way by being the example. I’m here to tell you, as a population of women, we have all gone through that exact type of relationship. Don’t ever feel like you are stupid for being committed, emotionally and physically involved, and even in love. We are emotional creatures. Don’t ever feel guilty for loving. I’m here to also tell you, You are learning. Every experience has a lesson. It’s all easier said than done, but when you look back, you’ll appreciate how far you’ve come.

“I feel so stupid for wasting all that time with him” - take this time to reflect on the times you were happy. It’s not all bad. Feeling bad is temporary. It’s a part of the process; trust the process. Trust God. Joy wouldn’t feel so good without pain. So remember when you come out of this sunken place, always know the grass will be greener on the other side waiting for you to shine bright and be the woman you can be.

“I’m done with him for real this time.” - prepare yourself for the return. He’s going to come back. They always try to come back after the damage is done. Don’t waste more time that you DONT have. Build your confidence, mental stability, create goals, and focus all that energy into you and your well being.

“I want to learn being in love with myself, and by myself”- As we all should. As women we have a tendency to rely on the company of others to fulfill a empty space. We NEED the attention from man, or NEED love and reassurance from man. In actuality, self love is the best love. Once we value ourselves and can be content by ourselves, it’s then that we are mentally and physically prepared to love others. We are able to identify when a relationship is toxic or a liability. Don’t drag a relationship out that’s not healthy, mentally and physically. Let it GO sis.

“Is he a asset or liability?” - with learning self love, we establish our value. When we establish our value, we move differently. If you’re working towards bettering yourself, why not make sure we’re adding somebody to our lives with value as well. Don’t add dead weight to your life. If he can’t do for you, what you’re already doing for yourself or better, reevaluate your choices. You don’t need anything bringing you two steps back in life for every foot you move forward being the woman you’re creating.

“I’m living my best life.” - living life or playing russian roulette with life? Enjoying life is one thing and being irresponsible is another. We get our hearts broken once or maybe even several times in life. Avoid feeling like you need a another man or MEN to get over that phase in life. Don’t get caught up in making poor choices, just to end up in a situation that you can’t get out of. Protect your mind, body and soul as much as you can. Your body is a vessel, a tomb, it’s secrete. Everyone doesn’t deserve it . It’s never too late to change your path. Pray and ask God for forgiveness. Be protective of yourself. Don’t get caught up in social media that makes “living your best life” sound like the right life. What may be having fun for one person, may not be the same for you. It’s all fun and games until somebody gets hurt. That somebody might be you at the end of it all.

We are powerful. We have the gift of bringing life into the world. We have the courage to step out of faith to be whoever we want to be. Don’t let man and society determine your destiny. Be the woman you know you can be. Never be afraid to cry, be sad, be happy, and be sad all over again. You’re human. But know this beautiful girl, young lady or woman, you can be WHOEVER you want to be, but always put yourself first.