Girl Code for MEN

I believe a lot of relationships these days strive off a variety of things. Some last for the sake of history, sex, looks, physical touch, love, or even what the opposite sex can provide. A lot of first questions people ask, why are you single? It’s simple, dating isn’t the same these days. Of course because times have changed. We’ve gone from asking a girl on a date to “let’s meet at a bar” or meeting a nice person in the grocery store, through a friend, or even by accident to swiping left and right on apps. The point is, we forget a lot. We forget a lot of the things that truly matter because we are caught up in a lot of the wrong things. As women and men, we make ourselves too available. We are creatures of habit and that’s just apart of our generation’s history. For the men who care what a woman wants, here are a few girl codes: 1. “I can pull up to your house or we can chill at mines”

AHT AHT AHT! That is the most annoying request ever. It’s okay to chill sometimes and enjoy each other’s company, but the first night? Nah. Ladies, if a man makes this his first request to “spend time” with you, there’s your first red flag that he’s not ready for you.

2. “You got any friends? I’m going to have my homeboy with me.”

I hope men don’t ask this still, but just in case they do I’ll add it to the list. Men, it’s okay to see a girl alone. You don’t have to have your homeboys around for everything. Leave your homeboys at home.

3. “Wyd” “how are you” “wyd today”

Don’t “what you doing” her to death. She can have these conversations with her friends if that’s the case. Give her a conversation that’ll stimulate her mind. I’ll give you a hint: google has some good conversation topics.

4. When she tells you to be honest with her, believe her the first time.

Nobody wants to be lied to. Be honest the first time, it’s easier and your relationship will last a lot longer and stronger.

5. “I didn’t want to tell you because i didn’t want you to be mad or stop talking to me”

I’m here to tell you now: THAT'S SELFISH. If she wants to stop dating/talking to you because of something you had to be honest about, that’s HER decision and you should not make it for her. It’s up to her if she decides to stay around or leave, but that is not up to you.

6. “Im NoT LoOkiNg fOr nOtHiNg SeRiOuS”

First of all, grow up. Lol, for real though, It’s okay if you’re ready for commitment; it’s not for everybody. Again, be honest about your true intentions and again, it’s up to her what she’ll do with that information.

7. Women need reassurance- check on her, remind her that she is thought about, let her know it’s okay.

8. Women need affection and physical touch-some may like more than others.

9. Switch it up- Be spontaneous. Dates don’t always have to be at a restaurant. To name a few, the beach, the aquarium, and wine tasting. Put your pride to the side and enjoy something different.

10. Lastly, for now, bring date nights back. If you’re seeing someone, ask them on a date! After reading this, think of how you can make your lady smile and be different. More times than often, women are finding a million ways to make her man smile. We look on Pinterest, ask our friends & families, and google just to figure out ways to spice up our relationship.

Shout out to the men who pick up on all the non-verbal cues. Just because we don’t speak it, don’t mean we don’t see it or feel it. Shout out to the men who are consistent and try to do right. It’s a lot of great men in the world. Ladies don’t give up on dating, just know that dating can be done the right way and don’t sell yourself short!